According to the dictionary a "friend" is a person you know well and regard with affection and trust. Friendship is the cooperative and supportive relationship between people. In this sense, the term connotes a relationship which involves mutual knowledge, esteem, affection, and respect along with a degree of rendering service to friends in times of need or crisis.
Now since my break up I have found out what a real "friend" is. I have many acquaintances but not many friends. People I have known for years, have they even bothered to send a text? No. Or even message me over facebook? No. Well they were "friends" worth having!
Worse than the above mentioned so called friends are the ones that get in contact purely for gossip purposes. My business is my f*cking business and if I want someone to know, I will tell them. I hate people saying things like "well such and such told me Adam said this and that, is it true". The you answer them thinking they actally might care, then that answer gets all round Nottingham before you know it! Thanks for that "friend".
I have narrowed it down to about 5 proper friends. These people text or call me at least once a day to see if I'm ok and what I'm upto. Some call a little more (which can get annoying but I am grateful they care). Some I don't speak to as much such as Roz, but I know that if I needed her...she would be there. These are the people, the Friends I need around me right now and although I only have a handful, I am grateful for each and every one of them.
Good, I'm glad you class me as one of them. I don't want to smother you, and of course I'm right here whenever you need me.
ReplyDeleteJust think though, these people that gossip, it's because they don't have a life of their own, so they need to interfere in yours.
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